Allow me to describe what it’s like for me.
I am not very social within very large groups of unfamiliar people, but I do however tend to be loud and talkative with my closest friends. I prefer intimate get togethers over raging parties. I have been invited a couple of times to some big parties and usually what would make me want to go is that I’ll be promised to see cute boys. Although I like the generous offer, not even cute boys will make me want to actually get up and mingle with people I don’t know.
If I want someone to spend time with, I would usually ask one of my closest friends to hang out at my house and just chill. This is the kind of social gathering I like. Once I’m done spending a day or two with others, I need my alone time. I need to somehow recharge and regain the energy I have reserved for socializing. So when I am hesitant to attend an event and end up not going at all, it either means I feel exhausted or I feel uncomfortable with the situation.
And unfortunately, I tend to pick my friends; which can be both a bad and good trait. For example we might have the same classes and talk in school, but that doesn’t mean I can bring myself to open up and actually go out to hang with you. It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s just that I’m not comfortable enough to fully express myself around you. I prefer quality over quantity when it comes to friends.
Being alone isn’t boring for me. Since I mostly spend five days a week secluded in my bedroom, I’ve grown to love my own company. I find time to do things I don’t usually get to do when I’m out and about, so I greatly value this form of isolation.
Basically, I’m selectively social. Being like this has its ups and downs (the same goes with being extroverted), but in the end I like how I am and I appreciate the perks of being an introvert.
If you want to know more about what it’s like having this personality trait, then I suggest you read up on these interesting articles:
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- Reign Gonzales
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