We all know/knew someone who we became really good friends with but slowly started to feel that we've become friends with a person who we never really wanted to become friends with. You realize that you've started to do things that you never did before (negative things) and you’re starting to go against what you stood for and many more because of this friend.
For those of you who have never really been in that position, here are three ways (out of a whole bunch) to detect a toxic friend.
This can be a good or a bad thing, depending on how you handle this. However, some people may force you to do things that you never wanted to do. Consent is key and if you are feeling pressured to do something then I think you are not friends with the right people. Friends will and should accept you, for you. If you don’t drink, they should be fine with it. You never dated anyone; they should be chill. You never had sex; they shouldn't give a fuck about that.
IF YOU ARE SUDDENLY DOING THINGS YOU DO NOT FEEL COMFORTABLE DOING OR FEEL PRESSURED, DROP THAT PERSON QUICKLY BECAUSE THEY SPELL BAD NEWS FOR YOU IN THE FUTURE. YOU COULD JEOPARDIZE A LOT OF THINGS BECAUSE YOU’LL BE DOING THE WRONG THINGS.
When you start to get to know someone, you feel comfortable around her to the point where you can be honest about personal issues and things that, although may make them frown, will try to help you out. You essentially want to have friends who make you feel good about yourself, who reassures you that you don’t need that horrible guy or girl in your life. However, there are some people out there in the world who will make you feel terrible about yourself.
I am going to tell one (out of the many) ways that I have dealt with detecting a toxic friend: When you finally pull yourself out of that horrible, personal hole that made you not you, but then you start talking to your ‘friend’ and suddenly they’ll make you feel like you’re back in that horrible hole. This is a prime example of a toxic friend. They can sometimes slip in things like ‘I like it when our conversations don’t go anywhere, it’s taught me to not expect much’ or ‘I cried myself to sleep at night’ with no reason to do so. You may feel like you've gone back a step, that maybe you aren't good enough to be in the position you are in because your friend is telling you all of this.
DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM. YOU ARE BETTER THAN SOME PERSON WHO MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE SHIT.
Remember when you sat anxiously in class when you did something wrong with your friend but they never told on you? That’s true friendship right there. However, as you grow up, you have a tendency to meet a lot of people who are prepared to take you down with them - even if you did nothing wrong.
One way this could happen is when they, for example, pressure you into drugs because they don’t want to do it alone. Not only your ‘friend’ but you as well could become drug infused and so both of you will be drug addicts together - if it were to happen. A second way is when you had no part in whatever got them into trouble but then they bring your name into the equation and BAM you’re also in trouble - possibly more so than your ‘friend’.
Basically you want to drop them like they’re a hot potato because you are so much better than getting burnt.