HOW TO BE A SLUT 101

You can be a slut. Yes you, my dear. You can be a S-L-U-T. Just follow these 3 easy steps.  

1. Wear that short skirt and shorts

     Let this be clear. If you wear that short skirt and shorts, you are now a slut. It doesn't necessarily even have to be shorts or a skirt, just wear something revealing and voila you are now a whore! You don't even need to do or say anything because apparently just wearing certain clothing makes you a floozy. Hey, don't blame me! These are just generally the rules society has dictated. Anything sexy is now considered slutty. Never mind the fact you're wearing that for your own comfort. Never mind that you wear that top for yourself and not to impress the boys. Never mind that a man can just remove his shirt anywhere and no one would care and when a woman shows just a little skin she's instantly being branded a slut. Never mind that you never really hang around with just guys. Society has now branded you with that label of a slut for just wearing what you want. Congratulations! You are now part of the group of women who are asking for it when they are wearing sexy clothing. You are now part of those women who cause men to sin and who want to get raped. Fantastic! 

2. Have several guy friends

     Just surround yourself with the male species. You don't even need to be dating any of them and I can guarantee you that someone is already calling you a "slutty bitch" behind your back. Don't even bother explaining to people that you're just comfortable having guy friends. Don't even bother trying to tell them you want nothing more outside of friendship. Don't even bother that they're just like brothers or cousins to you. Society does not care for your reasons. It only cares for what their eyes can perceive, and a female who hangs with several guy friends is probably just a slut who flirts with all of them. Maybe you do even a little bit more which they all conclude from just seeing you talk to them. Brilliant! 

3. Having a colorful dating history

     If you've dated several guys in the past, I'm pretty sure the word slut has come up alongside your name. It doesn't matter that you were just unlucky in love or have made mistakes here and there. Doesn't matter that when a man has the same background he's considered a lucky bachelor, a man who is desired; and yet when a woman dates around, she's the sluttiest girl to hit the town .  Doesn't matter that you have just been trying to find the person who would help you become a better person, your soul mate. At the end of the day, what matters is the number of people you've dated, not the amount of times your heart has been broken. What matters in people's eyes is that you've probably slept with all those men and for that, you are a certified slut!

     I hope at this point you have understood the sarcasm of this article. The goal of this is to show how awful slut shaming is. Slut shaming as generally defined by a feminist blog is "the idea of shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual, having one or more sexual partners, acknowledging sexual feelings, and/or acting on sexual feelings". Just because she is a woman, it doesn't mean that she deserves to be treated less. It doesn't mean that she needs to be ashamed of her gender, of her body, or asserting her sexuality. It doesn't mean that she deserves to be made to think that she is less than anyone else for wanting things that deviate from society’s standards. Whether it's in relationships, friends, or clothes, a woman is entitled to do what she wants with her body and her life in general, as long as she isn’t hurting anyone or breaking any law. Preventing her from doing so is stripping her from her dignity to live. If she makes mistakes, that's part of life, of learning. Calling her a slut, especially if you're a woman yourself, is disrespectful. You are insulting your very gender when you do so. Her dating life and her clothes do not solely define her as a person. They do not define the goodness in her heart and the light in her eyes. They do not diminish the compassion she has for others and the kindness she has to offer to the world. 

     If you're a woman reading this, have enough respect for yourself and for others to stop calling each other bitches, sluts, and whores. Stop judging other people for the way they live and instead focus on how to improve your life.  If you're a man reading this, no matter what the situation is, do not sink low enough to instantly brand or call a woman a slut no matter how bad you think her behavior or manner of dressing is. It's just plain wrong, and you are dehumanizing them by making them objects you can classify into a certain category.

     Lastly, just a friendly reminder dears: Everyone is entitled to their opinion, their belief and their own life. We all breathe and live to suffer or enjoy the consequences of our own actions and inactions. If men and women alike learn to respect and understand this fact, then I think the world would be a much more beautiful place to live in.   

- Danielle Bernabe
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