It is also theorized by Sergey Gavrilets, a computation-minded researcher at the University of Tennessee, that natural selection is the key reason as to why monogamy exists and why it proliferates. Scientists believe that as time went by, males began to realize that it was such a waste of time, energy, and resources to feud over females just to produce more younglings. They started to come to the conclusion that they are all better off pairing up and caring for their offsprings. It is also noted by Gavrilets that females tended to favor men who could cater to their needs of food and care for their children.
With these SCIENTIFIC reasons within our reach, you realize that monogamous relationships are truly more beneficial. Before culture or religion even came to exist, the human race already believed that monogamy was for the advancement of their own species as monogamous pairs produce lasting offsprings with better care for their young. Nature as usual also played its part and significantly contributed to this change.
Personally though, I’d also like to think it’s really more fulfilling (and crazy as it may seem), that it's both ideal and logical to be monogamous. Sure, in a sense polygamous relationships are more adventurous and exciting. After awhile though, the amount of time and energy these kinds of relationships take catches up on you. It takes so long to know and fully trust one human being, let alone one or two more. I think that being polygamous compromises any chance to form one solid unit to raise a family. Being in one good solid relationship builds and affirms a human being's self-esteem and personhood, with the knowledge that he/she is loved unconditionally by one person who will then for better or for worse become a lifetime partner.
I fully understand that what I am saying is an ideal but I do think it still exists. It will take an incredible amount of work though. It can be difficult to choose the same person every day; it can be tiring to keep making exclusive relationships work. Dealing with your partner everyday is a both a joy and a constant struggle. What’s more exhausting though, I believe, is having to deal with the works of a relationship with one more person or even more so, if you're talking about multiple partners. In my opinion, it is detrimental to a person's emotional, mental, and physical health to constantly divide and compete for your partner's attention in polygamous situations. As my wise great grandfather has said “Dealing with one person for the rest of your life is hard enough, why make life more difficult by having another one?”
- Danielle Bernabe
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