Through the years, I’ve formed friendships with a lot of special people. These are the ones that I felt really close to and that I truly cared about. They all come from different backgrounds yet somehow they all have one thing in common: they eventually move somewhere else. It doesn’t matter if they moved to another school or city or country. Every person I treated as a really close friend (and an almost best friend) always coincidentally left me in the past. Of course it had nothing to do with me, but it is weird that it has always happened.
However, I did move on eventually. Some of them I’ve lost contact with completely. I guess I’ve found better friendships to care about every time. But, what if you’ve found the best friendship ever and they ultimately decide to move to the other side of the world?
Fortunately, her moving was delayed for about two years. Unfortunately, I took it for granted. That is the thing I regret about our friendship the most. I started becoming busy because of high school and whatnot, but I admit, I had several chances of spending time with her. I just didn’t prioritized it enough. It was the first time I actually brought a friend to the airport so that she could leave the country possibly forever and it overwhelmed me so much. I somehow realized that I’m always the one being left and I’m never the one leaving. I don’t know which one’s worse but at the time, I felt like I had it really bad. When she finally left, I was a complete mess for a period of time.
I didn’t talk to anyone for a while and I preferred to be alone most of the time. My parents started worrying about me and they tried to make conversation for the most part, but I always ended up giving one word answers under my breath. I couldn’t even look anyone in the eye. My best friend and I did talk online, but it still wasn’t the same. Especially when you live in different time zones, it’s not that easy maintaining a long and straight conversation because eventually one of you has to go to bed.
It’s also hard not being jealous of your best friend who’s living in another country. Just thinking about the amount of cute boys she could encounter made me envious (petty, I know). Not only that, but I’ve always wanted to know what it’s like to live somewhere else other than my own country. I sadly wasn’t the one who got to live that dream.
Just like previous times, I moved on.
I’m not going to tell you how to maintain a long distance friendship because no two friendships are the same but of course, you need to put a certain amount of effort. I won’t give you tips on what to do to stay in touch because those things are solely up to your discretion. I will, however, tell you that when you find that one true best friend, you’re not going to worry about the amount of distance between you two. Friendships are not about how physically close you can get to someone, they’re about the love and care you feel for that person even when you’re miles apart.
And don’t worry if you’ve never felt like that towards someone just yet. Sometimes the best people you will ever meet can enter your life by surprise.