Marian: This will really depend on what you choose to feel and what you believe in. The only way you can stop feeling a certain way is if you firmly decide that you won't feel that way anymore and only you can do that. It's definitely a constant struggle; every hour of everyday you have to decide that you're amazing and that you're beautiful all on your own and there will be a lot of days when it's harder to believe those things, when all of a sudden you feel this pang of hatred and sadness and you won't know where it came from, but once you recognize these feelings, you simply say no. You're better than these negative feelings. If you seriously, honestly want to believe them then it won't matter who will say otherwise. You have to choose to believe these words everyday and one day, it will just come naturally and you won't need your daily reminder anymore because you just know.
Anna: Sometimes you feel super confident, like you could take on the world, but sometimes you could feel so down that you won't notice how deep in you already are in your hole of self-pity. This is life. It happens. But what matters is what you're going to do while you're in that deep hole. People compliment you. People like you. The fact that your friends go to you for advice means that people respect you. Repeat that to yourself whenever you're feeling down. In fact, you like you. You said so yourself and that's what matters the most.
"Most of my friends are either in a relationship or getting there and it bothers me that I can't seem to find someone. I'm nice and kind and friendly but that's just it! I'm always the nice friend, the friendly girl, and for once I want to experience the same things my friends are experiencing; not to mention it's getting awkward when we go out as a group because their boys are always around. Is there something wrong with me? Am I destined to be alone?"
Marian: Just because most of your friends are pairing off and you haven't found anyone doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. Maybe it's just not yet your time to be in a relationship and that's perfectly fine! One day you're gonna meet someone and that will be an amazing experience! If not then that would be an amazing experience too because what's wrong with being alone for awhile? I'm also pretty sure your current situation will not define how your future will go so don't get all bothered about this. Enjoy your time alone, you have a lot of things ahead of you.
Anna: Initially I thought that you just want a boyfriend. That's fine, girls/boys feel the urge to clench their thirst once in a while. But what it looks like here is that you want a boyfriend to fit in with your friends who all have boyfriends. That, girl, is not a valid reason to get a boyfriend. Because what's going to happen is that you'll be showing him off like a trophy you just won to all of your friends. You find a boyfriend because you want to love and be loved. You don't even go looking for one. You just find them.