Reign: First of all, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. I’m not saying this just to make you feel better; I’m saying this because it’s true. Don’t ever let anyone or even yourself make you feel less than what you really are. Trust me when I tell you that it is not worth starving yourself. I want you to love your body and your whole self because you are worth loving. Do you get what I mean? I may not know the reason why you are facing this problem, but I do know that you shouldn’t let it get to you. At the end of the day, it’s what is inside that matters. I know it’s so cliché to even say that but it’s the truth. I’m sure you’re very lovely and very smart. It’s hard, I know. It takes so much time to love and accept ourselves because we seem to have so many imperfections, but that’s because we’re human. We’re allowed to want to look and feel better though it doesn’t mean we should hurt ourselves in the process of it. If you really think you need help, all you have to do is reach out. Tell someone who you think will really help you in overcoming this issue. Don’t be afraid or be ashamed to ask for help because it’s actually the first step to accepting what you have and what you are. I hope I made you realize some things and I hope I actually helped. I care about you, whoever you are!
Anna: I know the feeling of staring at my reflection and thinking on how I can look so much better and how a lot of me isn’t healthy. It’s such a horrible feeling until you know you can change how you look. But the end won’t justify the means. Starving yourself can get you a thin body but it won’t get you a healthy one. It’s your typical "it looks good on the outside but it’s horrible on the inside". Your stomach won’t be the only thing that would be affected in this but as well as your brain, blood, and almost everything else because your body depends on food. I would tell my parents if they understand enough. Relapses are dangerous and can happen any time, so ask the people around you to help you before you slip too deep. You should talk to your parents first if you need outside help.
“I've been so stressed lately and I'm messing a lot of things up. I try my best to see things in a positive way but sometimes I can’t help but get all depressed.”
Reign: I’ve been there. There was this point in my life when I couldn’t see positivity in anything. It sucked, especially when you have school and family problems adding up to the burden. I guess after a while I realized that there wasn’t any point in wallowing in sadness. I mean, I got so tired of being stressed and unhappy all the time that I wanted to change already. I finally understood what people meant when they said that happiness is a choice. I learned that the hard way. My mom once said to me, “It’s only a problem if you treat it as a problem”. She’s right. You have the power to conquer the things that make you feel the way you feel. I have no idea if you understand where I’m coming from or if I’m actually making sense. It will suck for a while, I’ll give you that, but whatever you’re going through right now won’t be there forever. It’s okay to make mistakes because that’s part of growing up. I guess that means we’re allowed to make mistakes until we die because we never actually do stop growing do we? Life is hard and it is unfair; it might always be, but you own your life and so you have the capabilities to change things. It will always get better if you want it to. You just have to have faith in yourself. I seriously hope I made sense.
Anna: One thing to never do is to watch TV or a movie as a pick me up. I’ve been there and it doesn’t work at all. You can approach this in two different ways. Be alone: just meditate with really good background music. Relax. Calm down and as yoga instructors like to say, let the world shift into your place as you breathe in its energy and exhale your negativities. But seriously, you just need to stop everything and meditate on what exactly is going on and what you can do about it. Food helps too. The second way: talk. If you’re that type of person who needs to pour it all out on another, go. Grab your best friend and vomit it all out. Then listen. Just listen to them and if it doesn’t work, do the first method.
“My best friend's a guy and just last year he confessed that he liked me but I turned him down and said I just see him as a friend and he said he's ok with it but now every time I hang out with other guys he gets really pissed off and clingy.”
Reign: He must really like you if he’s being this overprotective. I think you should tell him straight that it’s bothering you when he acts a certain way whenever you’re around other guys. He’s jealous; even if he denies it, he clearly is. You have to let him know that you just don’t feel the same way about him and that you’re allowed to hang out with other guys, but be nice. You don’t want to deal with a guy with a broken heart. I guess try to understand what he’s feeling too, it’s hard for someone to be “friend-zoned”. Being clingy is just a way for him to ‘deal’ with the situation. I think he’s trying to make the friendship ‘feel’ normal, but let’s face it: it’s pretty awkward. He’s going to get tired and move on, eventually. He’s going to realize that he has to respect your decision and if he doesn’t, that’s his problem.
Anna: He’s acting like he’s a protective boyfriend when you’re around guys. And that’s a big no because you specifically told him that you don’t want him to be. Now, he has to know that you are a person and you have rights to interact with whoever you want. Even if he doesn’t like those guys, it isn’t him who’s hanging out with them. You have to talk to him in a serious manner with this one. As for the clingy part, just hint subtly, like telling him to move a few inches away. If that doesn’t work you can always tell him he’s invading your personal space which you rightfully need and deserve.