"I have a big crush on this famous boy from this famous boy band and idk I wanna fangirl about him but then I'm shy because I'm afraid my friends who have been fans for a longer time might roll their eyes and call me fake fan and idk it's really bothering me?"
Anna: Screw your friends. They should be helping you get into that guy even more and share all their info about him. You might never know their reaction till you actually come out with it. Keeping all those feels inside won't help you man. Let it out to your friends and if they treat you any different, they are the ones who are wrong. Tell them that.
Marian: Fandoms are something you share with other people and if your friends get all possessive or something then that's not your problem anymore. There's seriously nothing wrong if you just started liking something (like an artist) 4 years ago or 4 months ago, what matters is that you enjoy it as much as the next person and if your friends don't like that then I guess it's time to analyze why they're your friends if they get worked up over something like that.
"I've been in a fandom for like 3 years now and I really wanna get out but I'm having a hard time. It's like every time I try to ignore things about them and focus on more important things, something new comes up and then boom my heart explodes again and next thing I know I've been sucked back. I really wanna get out but is it even possible to get out?"
Anna: If you have unfollowed all their fan pages and they just really are that big so much so they dominate most of social media, it's time to reflect on how much you really want out. Because in all honesty, I can think of only one solution which is to turn off your social media and just return to life before them. Only check facebook or twitter if something super important non-fandom related thing happens. While you're on hibernation, go binge watch or read to ease your wait. The feels will die out sooner or later and you will become desensitized.
Marian: I agree with what Anna said! Start by unfollowing all the fan pages and you'll be surprised by how much that will change your feed and timeline. It won't go away immediately, but I can assure you that once you start occupying yourself with other things like school or other extra-curricular activities, you won't even notice that you don't think about the fandom anymore. Again, it's also up to you; if you really want to change your priorities, you have to fight all kinds of temptations and focus on something else. It will all go away eventually.