Marian: I can't really give any accurate advice about this because I'm also trying to figure it out but based on what I've heard, I think you should not actively look for one. Based on other people's experiences, it seems like flings come naturally, like the person just shows up or you meet somewhere unexpectedly. But whether someone shows up or not, I strongly suggest that you don't waste away your time thinking about having a fling or being in a temporary relationship during your vacation. Enjoy your time there with your family or friends, eat good food, spend some time with yourself; you don't need someone else's company to make your vacation a memorable one anyway.
Anna: You do know those do: You do know those only exist in TV shows and Young and New Adult books right? And fanfiction? Well, if you're looking for tips on how to flirt with guys I can't exactly help you there because I have very little experience on that. You can go Google that. But what concerns me here is that I hope you're able to have a fling with a guy and not hurt anyone's feelings in the process. Also, don't force anything. If the guy has a girlfriend, stop. If the guy doesn't want to, stop. There's no need for you to sink down to that level of desperation to fulfill a goal like that.
"I came out to a friend of mine who I have been relatively close with for the past years or so. I kind of had a crush on her too at some point. Now, she's cold and distant and I don't think that's fair. I don't like her anymore and she thinks I do because I told her I wasn't straight. I tried talking to her but she just seen-zones me."
Anna: You're right in saying it's unfair. But you have to cut her some slack. It seems to me she might have noticed that you liked her before and now that you've admitted that you aren't straight, she thinks you like her again. And this time you're going to be open about it. It's a pretty shocking thing since you've known each other for years and you're relatively close. So, there are two ways to approach this and it depends on what kind of person she is. If she's the type that needs to cool down, let her cool down. Give her a few days and confront her in person. I know we live in a cyber world but talking face to face is the best way to settle things because it also proves you have the balls and determintation to confront them personally. If she's the type to jump to conclusions, GO ACT NOW. GO TO HER HOUSE AND TALK TO HER BECAUSE YOU DON'T LIKE HER ANYMORE AND YOU HAVE TO INFORM HER BEFORE SHE DOES SOMETHING DRASTIC.