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3/26/2014

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"How do you know if you like someone?"

Reign: I think you should define "like" first. If you mean 'How do you know if I have a crush on someone', then it's really up to your definition of "crush" as well. I guess if you're comfortable around him/her or if he/she makes you feel good about yourself or if you find that person attractive appearance-wise and personality-wise, then you could say that you like that person. 

Anna: I'm going to assume like you mean romantically. You like that person when you think about them so much you can't function properly. Your face turns red by the mere mention of their name. For some people, you will snap at anyone who teases you about him/her.

"My parents are ignoring me and I don't know why?? I didn't do anything but I feel like they're mad at me for someone reason. What should I do?"

Reign: Ask them. Maybe they're just tired and caught up with work or maybe you did do something wrong that might have hurt them and you just didn't realize it; either way you have to ask them. 

Anna: Talk to them. It could be that they're really busy with work. Don't you dare be scared on addressing this problem because it is a parent's duty to give their child enough attention.

"Do you think I should take review classes for college this summer?"

Reign: I wouldn't know what review classes are like because I didn't take any but it's worth a shot. You could also buy self-study books if you're not up for attending classes. I guess classes will help you understand lessons more since there's an actual teacher present, but usually college entrance exams are more on stocked knowledge. I have had some friends who said that the things they learned from their review classes weren't even in some tests but why not give it a try?

Anna: Uh no. What I've noticed is that those people who seem like they need review classes and took it didn't get to pass their dream school anyway. So I suggest you take it easy for the summer and wait till the two weeks before your CET. Then you can
review. I mean refresh your memory and familiarize yourself with the topics, not be able to recite the periodic table by heart.
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Don't Know Why

3/19/2014

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"I'm never one for accepting failure and I pressure myself a lot. I'm always so hard on myself because I feel like if I don't succeed at some things, I will never succeed in anything. Is that a good thing?"

Reign: A bit of pressure might be good for you because it actually motivates you to perform better, but too much can make you implode. You can't base your success in the future on little failures of the past because you have no certainty of what will happen next in your life. You can learn from your mistakes but you can't let it eat you alive.

Anna: No that is not a good thing. And you may feel that if you don't succeed in some things you'll feel bad, but actually it sounds like you need to succeed in everything for you not to feel bad. You have a lot of time to figure out what you're really good at and what you suck at. I mean, you can't be good at everything, right? 

"I know a lot of people have said this already but I still feel like I'm not making the right college decisions. I'm about to graduate in a few days and I still feel anxious about my college and career choice. Help?"

Reign: I guess sometimes you just have to make impulse decisions and risks and hope for the best. The future is scary but we can't really avoid it so make the most out of whatever decisions you make. 

Anna: Chill. Knowing what course you're destined for will take a substantial amount of time and the sad reality is not all of us have enough time to make our decisions. So, I suggest you start thinking really hard about things. Know what are your strengths and  the courses that are out there that will coincide with them. Then you can make a plan on shifting to that course, school, or whatever. That's all you can do for now, plan. 

"I hate being asked what I want to do in the future because honestly I have no idea. Like, yeah I should have decided on what my career will be but what if I change my mind in the near future, right? I just wanted to rant about how I'm so sick of people asking about MY future. It's getting annoying." 

Reign: I feel the same way about people asking what my college is or what career path I'm going to take. They just don't understand the way you think. Some people set their minds on only one idea and whenever someone doesn't necessarily follow that idea, they become judgmental, you get what I mean? You know what screw them. This is your life and your decision; don't let them mess with your head. 

Anna: Well, I know you can't escape all those nosy adults who'll ask you this. Do not lose your temper in front of them because it really won't do anyone good. You can always say "I'm not sure but..." and then expound on the course that you're taking till they get bored. 
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Should I Risk It?

3/12/2014

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"I'm having second thoughts about going to the prom because I feel insecure about the way I look, help please."

Reign: First of all, it's your night too. It doesn't matter if you don't have the prettiest dress or the slimmest figure, you're there to have fun and to enjoy and to not think about what others think. 

Anna: Listen, on that night, people will be looking at you not because you're ugly or anything bad, but because you have put on a fabulous gown with amazing make-up and hair to accentuate your natural beauty. Accentuate, meaning enhance, meaning you already got something good going on with your face you just gonna make it look nicer. And let's say you're insecure about pimples, fat, or hairy legs, just remember everyone has those problems too and that isn't stopping them from going to prom, so why would it stop you?

"I really want to go to parties where there's drinking and stuff. I'm not going to get drunk and all that, I just want to experience those kinds of parties but I'm afraid that my parents will get mad if they find out. Do I tell them about it if ever I will go to a party or not?"

Reign: This will be coming from a person (me) who has no experience with such hardcore parties. If you're afraid of getting caught, I'd advise you to tell your parents. Don't give too much details though because they will worry and get paranoid. Just tell them that you got invited to this party and there will be drinking but you won't let yourself get carried away. Parents like it when you're honest with them with these kinds of things because they feel like you're comfortable with telling them anything, so yeah. 

Anna: ... Uh, no you don't. Okay, it is going to make you feel guilty (and make me look like a bad influence) but you have to understand that they will not let you do that, no matter what because you yourself cannot know what would and would not happen in a drinking party. So, you risk it. 

"What's preventing me from going to my dream college is how expensive it is. It's REALLY expensive because it's in the States. I already applied and got accepted and it's been my dream college since I was a junior and I'm really passionate about studying there so do you think it's worth spending so much money on?"

Reign: Yes and no. Yes, because you shouldn't let this opportunity be put to waste. There are so many what if's if you don't try it out and this might bring so many more opportunities in the future. No, because if your parents don't have the money to afford the college, I guess you have to understand the circumstances. But if you really want to go there, you should save money to also help with the costs or to repay your parents back even just a little bit.

Anna: Have you checked through the scholarship programs though? If you did and it's still expensive then I suggest you go find another school. As sad of a reality it is, quality education is expensive and you have to settle with lower grade education. However, that doesn't mean that there aren't schools that could give you something on par with what your dream school can give you. If you're talking about Ivy League Schools, a State University wouldn't be so bad, right?
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Convince Me, Convince Yourself

3/5/2014

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"I really don't want to fail any test I take, I mean who doesn't? I study really hard but I never get confident about me passing. I'm so afraid of blanking out in the middle of the test. Help?"

Anna: That my friend is what you call test anxiety. You should probably lay-off on the coffee and sleep more. Sleeping actually helps memory retention, so all those all nighters you've been pulling could lower your success in passing. A more detailed advice could be seen at: http://stress.about.com/od/studentstress/a/test_anxiety524.htm

Reign: I agree on what Anna said. Don't overstudy, it'll just mess up your brain. Try not to be paranoid about failing and relax when you take a test. What I usually do when I study is I take all the key words, formulas, etc. and write them down on an index card. After reading my books or handouts, I just read that little index card so I won't be too overloaded with information. 

"This is going to sound really weird but I have a crush on my teacher for a while now, and I kind of want to get over it. Even if I'm graduating and I won't see him next year, I still want to get some sort of closure."

Anna: GIRL THAT AIN'T WEIRD. I mean, it's not bad to desire for a more mature man compared to all those stupid ass fools that our age. Anyways, I suggest you do nothing about it. Time will pass and eventually you'll be able to laugh about it. 

Reign: There is nothing to be ashamed of! You may be blinded by infatuation right now, but I think you'll eventually move on from it. Once you start college, you might just forget about him in about five months or so; there's nothing to worry about.

"Oh my god my mom is really uptight about tampons but I just want to try them out. How do I convince her that they're okay to use???"

Anna: An informative powerpoint will lots of Comic Sans. Kidding aside, just tell her that it's possible that you won't actually use tampons in the long run. Then she's going to say, "Why bother buying then? YOU'RE JUST WASTING MY MONEY!" Tell her that you want to discover on your own because you may like tampons. And that's when you start listing down why tampons are nice. And then that's the time where you sneak out without your mom's permission to the grocery and buy them yourself because she still doesn't listen to you. 

Reign: You could explain to her the benefits of using tampons and tell her that you're just going to try it out. If she doesn't want you to try it out because she thinks it's disgusting, convince her by saying that tampons are a normal thing and a lot of people use it and it's actually somewhat better to use than pads from time to time. 
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